Happiness! How do I get it?
To receive or give of something fully as a human being, one needs to understand what we are really giving or receiving. We need to break it down and unpack all the parts of it, to truly understand the essence of the “thing” we are giving or receiving.
Happiness is something everyone desires, some have more than others, some think they have it but aren’t sure. Some have very little and don’t realise they need more.
To start the process of unpacking happiness, let’s begin with defining it. Happiness is the experience of joy, contentment, a positive well-being combined with a sense that one’s life is good, meaningful and worthwhile.
For each person happiness means something different, for example your meaning of happiness may differ from your children’s meaning of happiness or from your parents or spouse’s meaning of happiness. You need to identify what happiness means for you and then focus on implementing those ideas into your daily or weekly routines.
In other words, how do you experience joy, contentment and a positive well-being? What for you, is a good, meaningful and worthwhile life? These are the questions that will lead you to finding your personal happiness, because happiness is very personal! This is your starting point of finding your purpose and your passion.
Let’s break it up…
Joy is the emotion evoked by well-being, success, or good fortune or by the prospect of achieving the life one desires.
So, what do you desire most in your life?
What would you like to be successful at?
What for you would be good fortune or positive well-being?
Think about these questions and write the answers down so that you can visualize which direction you need to improve on or move towards (action plan).
Contentment is the state of being happy and satisfied. It’s a peaceful ease of mind. It’s being satisfied with what you have, whatever that is.
What for you would create the sensation of satisfaction of life?
What would you need to happen or charge in order to gain your happiness?
What would you consider a peaceful mind? And how would you achieve that mind set?
Again, think about the questions and add your answers to your action plan together with the above answers.
A positive well-being is when a person is living their life with happiness, engagement, and meaning.
What would give you that happiness?
How would you like your engagement with people to enhance your relationships?
What meaning would you prefer your life to have?
Some big questions here, keep going and add your answers to your others from above.
Okay so what now?
Now some of these questions might be easier for some than others, some people know what they want but just don’t know how to get there. Some people feel lost and trapped and want to break free from the cage. Some are faster walkers and others take bigger steps. Every person is designed uniquely, so that means your path’s will differ. Avoid comparing yourselves to others, walk at your own pace and on your own path!
Step 1: Decided what these three things mean to you, so that you can start taking action towards the direction that is revealed to you through answering these questions.
Step 2: Open up a blank weekly schedule (your free download of 4 useful schedules). I prefer to get two weekly schedules open because life is busy, and we need more time to accomplish our goals than we realise. Add some new activities into your schedule that would create improved happiness, for example a family lunch on a Sunday afternoon or an hour self-care time with your favorite book. Add these things into your schedule, you need to make time for the things that make you happy.
Step 3: Start becoming present in the moment, put down your phone, close your laptop. Start listening to the conversations you’re having, listen to what your children are trying to share with you, take part in new things, meet new people.
Step 4: Review, after two weeks look back on your schedule. Reflect on your feelings, has anything changed? What can be improved on? What has worked very well for you?
Step 5: Adjust your schedule and keep living towards your goals and desires. There is nothing stopping you.
Happiness is not something you postpone for the future but designed for the present ~ Jim Rohn
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